Birthday Miracle!

The doctor said it was highly unlikely that Ian would get out for Asha's birthday. Well, the Great Physician  stepped in and tripled Ian's blood counts overnight so that he was released to go home the afternoon before her birthday!!!  That means he was home to witness Asha's crack of dawn house-full-of-birthday-balloons squeals of surprise and  her requested strawberries and whipped cream French toast breakfast feast. 

What a birthday gift from heaven. 

Thank you Jesus!

 ❤️❤️❤️

Good news!!

I'm so very, very, VERY excited to announce Ian's counts are going up a little bit every day now! His fevers have stopped and his energy is slowly increasing. Each day is closer to him coming home, and boy are we looking forward to all being together again. I'm sure the doctors have plans for more chemo and biopsies and lymphocyte infusions in the very near future, but hopefully they will all be outpatient from here on out so we can be together through it all. 

Fiona came to visit Ian yesterday, seeing him for the first time in well over a month, and it was a perfect reunion. She had been begging day and night for a date with me to visit him in the "hopsible" and was missing him terribly. When we came into his room and washed our hands, at first she didn't know if she could touch him so she walked right up to him and just stood there hesitantly. Ian swooped her up into his arms and started weeping, and she held his hand and gazed lovingly into his eyes and wiped his tears. Oh it was the best, the sweetest, the tenderest moment I've ever witnessed. We only stayed for about an hour, but that hour was full of love so thick you could cut it with a knife. 

Asha has felt fine, but she has a lingering mystery cough so she will have to wait until Ian comes home to see him. Her birthday is this Sunday, and there is a sliver of a chance he may be able to come home that day. We don't expect it, but that sure would be sweet ❤️

Thank you all for your support of love and prayers and cards and meals. 

We are so blessed! 

Day 20

Well, it's been 20 days since Ian started chemo and no rising counts yet. They bumped up a few days ago to our great delight, only to drop back down the next two days. So we continue to wait and pray.

Ian's beard started falling out just today, so we will see if the trend continues. He still has daily fevers and night sweats which we are hoping are just due to his low immune system and persistent tonsillitis. If so, these should resolve once he starts making blood again. They are injecting him every evening with neupogen, a growth factor that tells his bone marrow stem cells to divide and create more blood. Until he can make his own, he's surviving on a steady supply of blood and platelet transfusions. We highly encourage those who can to donate blood to replenish the supply.

As for the girls and I, it's been an evolving dance of strategies this past week.  Fiona had been thriving, but Asha had grown a bit disconnected and was really missing me. She cried and cried when I visited, begging me not to leave, which broke my heart. She didn't want to go home with me and leave her friend Saraya in Sacramento though, either. So we are experimenting with a compromise - Saraya came home with us yesterday and has been an amazing Mama's/Nana's helper! This way Asha has a friend (who is a super sweetheart 11 year old) and she has the comfort of home/family. 

My mom is helping with the girls on days I visit Ian, but currently I'm feeling like the girls are needing me most. If anyone wants to sign up for meals, now would be a great time as I'd like to focus on reconnecting with the girls as much as possible while I'm home.  Here's the link.

Prayer points:

* Please pray for Ian's counts to come up super fast. It's been a little discouraging the past few days. He's been in the hospital for almost 4 weeks now and he's ready to escape the IV pole and midnight medications and be done with the same unappetizing menu for every meal. The hope of him coming home for Asha's birthday seems pretty dim at this point. 

* Please pray for the girls, Asha especially. She still seems a little disconnected and I can tell there's a lot going on inside her that she isn't communicating. She's been through a lot in her little lifetime.  Fiona is as cute and bright and mischievous as ever, but she talks about death a lot and really misses Ian. 

* Please pray wisdom and strength for me as I seek to discern the delicate balance of caring for myself and supporting Ian and each of the girls each day. My heart aches with the prayer that we will come through this stronger and sweeter, closer to the Lord and to each other.

Thank you!

DLI Today!

Ian's main doctor is now back from vacation and we were informed yesterday afternoon that the DLI (infusion of his brother's T cells) will be happening today. May this super power Ian's brother's immune system to banish every last vestige of leukemia! Never, ever to return!!! That's my battle cry prayer.

Any GVHD will probably take a couple weeks to show up. We feel so grateful to have escaped unscathed last time, with only a bit of GVHD on the follicle of his big toe. Unfortunately, it seems that was not enough. Please pray for the Great Physician to guide this delicate balance of attacking the leukemia and not his body. Some forms of GVHD can be short term and handled with steroids and immunosuppressants, but some can be fatal. Some are more long term and can effect quality of life for the rest of his life. There's a lot at stake, but we are continuing to take this one day at a time.

Ian is pretty weak, as would be expected at this stage of the game.  He is losing muscle mass daily and living off of platelet and red blood transfusions. He struggles to muster enough energy to just take a shower, often he can't even do that. He sleeps a lot and is still having fevers off and on daily, keeping a steady supply of blood cultures brewing just in case there's an infection to blame. They say he has about two more weeks of this before his blood counts might return. If he starts producing blood again, that is good news. It points toward remission. Asha's birthday is on July 26th, so we are hoping and praying Ian will be home to celebrate all together.

A friend was praying and saw a picture of Ian being held by Jesus. Ian's arms were at his sides, he didn't even have strength to reach out, but Jesus just picked him up and held him. That is exactly where Ian is at right now. He doesn't have much energy to reach out, but he knows deeply that God has got him.

As for me, I'm still under the pouring bucket of God's grace. The girls remain happy clams with our friends in Sacramento. Again, I can't express how grateful we are! It's such a blessing to be by Ian's side night and day while knowing the girls are happy and cared for.  I'll leave you with some pictures that brought us joy from this last week: the girls shucking and eating fresh corn, Fiona gathering mint for "Papa Jacob's" morning tea, and some of Chrys's beautiful henna:

Chemo Completed

Just wanted to check in for a quick update. Ian finished his last dose of chemo last night and the cumulative effects are definitely kicking in. He has slept most of the past two days, feeling very weak and low energy.  His liver counts go up and down. I'm thankful they are going down as well as up, and the doctors don't seem too concerned. The DLI is scheduled to happen in 5 days. That is the wild card right now, as they are planning to give him his brother's T cells until he experiences GVHD (graft vs. host disease - which is the only way to know they may have achieved GVL - graft vs. leukemia). The girls are still playing happily in Sacramento, though starting to miss us. God bless our amazing friends who are taking such good care of them.  Any pictures of Ian right now would be too depressing, so I'll leave you with one of Asha yesterday. That smile is priceless!!!

Joy and Thanksgiving

It hasn't been easy, but Amazing Grace continues to pour down. Last night was day 3 of the 5 days of chemo, and his fevers lifted the very night his chemo began. What a relief!  The chemo causes him to sweat profusely so he must change his poison drenched shirts again and again during and after treatment, making a nice pile of hazardous material laundry for yours truly, but the nausea is mild and he is eating regularly. Please pray protection for his liver, which is the main reason why they were avoiding this stronger chemo until it became the only option. His liver counts are going up, but they aren't too concerned at present as this is normal for the treatment.  It may take another two weeks for hair loss and other lovely side effects to pop up, but we are continuing to take it day by day and refusing to worry about tomorrow. As Ian keeps saying, "today is a pretty good day" and so we are thankful.

I have been so blessed to be by Ian's side throughout this treatment. When I was commuting back and forth, I'd get a pounding headache the moment I drove away from the hospital and it wouldn't lift until I was back en route to UCSF.  This did not make for a very happy mama with two emotionally fragile, intense, energetic, loud and talkative little people. The girls are still in Sacramento, and our dear friends have offered to keep them there as long as they are content. Asha has requested two months. They are in heaven, wrapped in love and picking fresh blueberries and blackberries and mulberries and gathering fresh eggs and playing with friends, dogs, horses and ladybugs. WAY better than being quarantined to our third floor apartment condo. We are sent a steady stream of texts, pictures and videos keeping us up to date on their cuteness and shenanigans. I can't express the huge relief and JOY that Ian and I feel for this amazing situation! I'll conclude with some of the pictures that make us smile with big thankful hearts:

Fiona picking blueberries for the first morning's waffles: